This is the Time to Show Everyone How Strong You Really Are.

Published on by Jamie Lee.

Consultant Jamie Lee from waaaaay back when, back in South Korea. 

Consultant Jamie Lee from waaaaay back when, back in South Korea. 

"The world breaks everyone. And afterwards, many are strong in the broken places." - Ernest Hemingway

I was born in Seoul, South Korea. A week before my eighth birthday I immigrated with my family to the United States. I grew up in the suburbs of New Jersey and was often told that I didn't belong in America.

"Go back to China!" neighborhood bullies would yell as they rode in bikes past our house. (Again, I'm from Korea)

"Your breath stinks because you eat sushi," I was once told while standing in line at school. (Kimchi definitely smells. Sushi is Japanese food that does not smell.) 

When I was nine years old, I felt that coming to America was a big mistake. I cried and blamed my parents, who opened a gift shop in Queens and operated it 364 days out of the year.

But over time, I grew to love America for what it stands for. I love it still. 

As a teenager, I read James Baldwin, listened to Ella Fitzgerald and wore Gap jeans. I dreamed of living in New York City, where I felt I really belonged. I began to see what great fortune it is to live in a country where anyone -- no matter their gender or color or background -- can make something of themselves by creating something of value.

In my twenties, I made a conscious choice to become a naturalized citizen and became a proud American. I moved to NYC. My resentment towards my parents changed to gratitude. As a working woman, I set my ambitions high, because that is my American right.

In my thirties, learning to negotiate for myself, to create and communicate value totally changed my career and life.

Today I'm committed to bringing my whole self - immigrant and female, flawed and ambitious - to the table, and helping other women do the same. I believe that we can all ask for and receive more, that we can grow the proverbial pie with hard work, creativity and collaboration. I still believe it's possible for women to change the world. 

This is the time to show everyone how strong you really are.

Post Election Manifesto

On November 29th, I'm leading a live negotiation master class in NYC. This event will help you prepare to stand up and ask for what you want -- authentically and assertively. 

Closing the gender gap in leadership and income starts with you. Let's get you ready for that gutsy ask. 

The best way to build your negotiation muscle is to practice - out loud. You'll get the opportunity to mock negotiate, get live feedback and improve your negotiation mojo at this live class

This event is offered at about 10% of what it costs to engage me as a consultant. But for any reason, you can't afford the ticket price, please email me at jamie@shenegotiates.com, and we'll work something out. 

In other news...

California now has one of the toughest equal pay laws in the country. 

NYC employers can no longer ask job applicants for current salary. 

If you work in non-profits or fundraising in the East Coast, come check this out. 

Let's move forward. 

Negotiation Consultant Jamie Lee, America, American Dream, The Future is Female, Women, Negotiation Master Class

Published on by Jamie Lee.