When people ask, "How do I get better at saying, 'that's my rate and I'm sticking to it'"? Typically, my answer is something like, "Your bottom line is not your starting point...you need to find your wiggle."
Your career and negotiation success hinges, in part, on knowing your strengths and superpowers, communicating them powerfully and unapologetically, being in command of your story, and leveraging all of it for the benefit of your company AND you.
Speaking up against the status quo feels, and often is, dangerous. Whether you’re confronting workplace harassment, or dealing with a colleague who undermines, interrupts, and steals credit, speaking up feels like it might number your days.
The whole family gathers around the dining room table for the big announcement. Where did your millennial decide to go to college? And then, you hear “it." The two words you’ve been dreading most: Community. College.
...and there I am again, kicking, punching, and scratching. Another boy astonished that he was bruised. A pattern repeated so many times I thought there might be something wrong with me. Not them, but me.
"I appreciate that, and I just want to put this into perspective. Last year, I brought in $15MM, a year-over-year increase of nearly 50% and nearly half of total revenues. It just happens that $150,000 is literally one percent of the value I brought to this company last year. Right now, I'm making less than one percent. So what I’m asking is for you to consider my compensation to be in line with my level of contribution."
In the fourth installment of Fearless Asking, we're exploring the three levels of listening and how they impact your negotiation success. Level 1: me me me. Level 2: In to the heart of the other, curious. Level 3: Reading the room at global level. Successful negotiators, influential people and trained coaches listen at level 2 and 3.
In the third installment of Fearless Asking, we're getting clear on what our negotiation conversation partners want and why. Getting clear on what we want and why as well as what they want and why helps us find common ground and mutual benefit. To do this, ask open ended questions, such as "What are your desired outcomes?" "What are your concerns?" Or "How can we solve this problem so that we can both get what we want?"
In the first installment of Fearless Asking, I review three core principles that inspire Fearless Asking and invite you to dig deeper into your higher purpose. What do you want to ask for? What purpose does it serve? How does it connect to what fulfills and brings you joy?